Does this quote sound familiar to you?
"You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something—your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever."
Well, it's from the late Steve Jobs.
It got me thinking. This was how I've been living for the last few years.
Many of the decisions I've made were from trusting my gut and following my heart.
But it wasn't always that way...
You see, growing up, the world disciplined me to be obedient.
And that turned me into a people-pleaser. A yes person.
And I hated it! Not being able to say no to things I want to say no to is so disempowering.
It made me very self-conscious about other people's opinions. And made me seek validation and approval from others for anything.
I guess it's safe to say that many of us were raised this way.
Yes, obedience helps keep most things in order. But it can also create chaos in your life by silencing your inner voice.
Cue in Ursula taking away Ariel's voice:
Sorry for the random Little Mermaid reference—we never grow old, eh?
My point is...
When you get so used to relying on others to dictate what you "should" do, you learn to stop listening to yourself.
I felt that way when they pushed me to go to nursing school so that I could make a lot of money as a nurse aboard—such bullsh*t.
I remember being a month away from becoming a regular staff nurse and how I felt like I'm in the wrong place.
I would leave the hospital exhausted and thinking to myself that I'll never go back...
But then I'd somehow convinced myself that I should go back. And I did.
That went on for months and months.
I wrestled with the idea of quitting and starting over and it scared me to death!
Until finally I reached a point where I couldn't take it anymore.
I got home, sent a text message to the nursing supervisor that I'm not going back to work, and went to bed.
I was so, so terrified!
Of other people's opinions.
Of the people I'd disappoint.
Of not knowing what would happen next.
But 5+ years in and I'm still so grateful I made that decision.
It literally set me free!!! And I'm giving you permission to do the same.
I need you to amp up the volume of your inner voice.
I need you to listen to yourself again.
You need it. Your soul needs it. The world needs it!
Now, I'm not telling you to be reckless about your life and business.
I'm making a request for you to always be asking what matters to YOU—to re-examine your beliefs and your values.
I want you to live the life of your dreams and that's only possible if what you're doing aligns with who you are.
No more shushing your inner voice.
It's time for you to listen to yourself.
Give yourself that gift.
You deserve it!
Have you had a similar experience?
Have you tried following your heart and it led to the most beautiful experiences?
Or perhaps the most terrible?
I'd like to know your stories! Leave a comment below.